An Open Letter to Anxious People Feeling Overwhelmed…And Tired of Playing Social Anxiety’s Sick Mental Game

You know social anxiety’s not going to help you at all, but what can you do?

You’ve heard the tired advice, “Just fake it ’till you make it.”

You faked it. But you certainly didn’t make it.

You tried doing your own exposure therapy.

But when you go, you just feel inadequate and sick all night. Or you spend the whole time worrying and ruining what should be a fun time. Just putting yourself out there works for others. But not you.

Or you spend the occasion talking about your problems. People just look at you oddly and walk away.

You’ve told yourself,”Don’t get too anxious. Don’t get too worried.”

You can’t just pop some medication. Its effects don’t last. Sometimes it doesn’t even work in the first place. And you might get addicted.

Try as you might, you can’t make your ideal vision of yourself reality.

You drink too much and you appear marginally normal. But after social situations, you go home and ball all night long anyway.

That’s if you even go. Often, you come up with reasons why you can’t go. And friends who used to call you don’t anymore.

You don’t want to feel anxious in situations.

You’d love to enjoy them, be yourself, and live life to the fullest. But your social anxiety just won’t go away.

What if you had a strategy for breaking out – even if you feel like you’ve tried everything already?

You may not believe it’s possible. Social anxiety’s run your life for years, and maybe even decades. You may not even remember a time when you weren’t anxious and afraid.

What if I got on the phone with you and helped you find a way to live the life you dream of?

The truth is…I’ve been exactly like you

The thought of being around unfamiliar people used to fill my stomach with a pit of dread. I felt like I was drowning in a swimming pool.

“Please. No. Anything but that. I’ll end up looking like an idiot. I’ll just fail. Everyone will hate me anyway,” the thoughts went.

I knew how much it limited me. But I still couldn’t beat it.

I preferred to avoid social events. Something was guaranteed to go wrong. I’d look lost and afraid. Or I’d stutter. Or appear anxious.

People would notice. They’d judge me. Sometimes out loud.

I’d look like a failure.

Then I’d get only more anxious. Finally, I’d go home and feel extremely guilty and ashamed because the vicious cycle happened…again.

Or, I’d go out and feel physically tortured. My stomach and mind would feel overwhelmed with anxiety. My mind would race so fast I couldn’t focus on any of my thoughts.

I couldn’t concentrate on what I wanted to say.

My palms would sweat. My back and neck would tingle with anxiety.

My voice would get higher.

I wouldn’t know what to do or say.

I felt like I wasn’t living a life. And knew I’d end up with enormous regret.

A hellish existence at best.

After decades of trial, error, frustration, and seemingly little progress, I finally realized something…

I had absolutely no clue who I was.

None at all.

I had never learned how to be me. Anywhere. Not even when I was alone. I didn’t like being me. Or being with me.

I had a dysfunctional relationship with myself.

If I didn’t have a healthy relationship with myself first, how could I expect to have healthy relationships with others?

Didn’t know what I stood for, what I wanted, or how I’d get there.

I did…whatever.

I got jobs I hated with a vengeance because that’s what you do (says everyone else). I went to college (for 7 years no less).

I abused myself drinking and partying too much.

I overworked.

And it seemed like no matter what therapy or self-help I tried, it only worked temporarily.

After realizing how I treated myself and that most self-help focused on changing thoughts (which were only symptoms) it was time for a change:

Working on addressing my core issue: loving myself by practicing self-compassion and changing my beliefs about me. For the first time in my life.

What no one tells you about social anxiety disorder

The most popular treatments available address symptoms of social anxiety.

Mindfulness meditation focuses your thoughts on something different. That’s a distraction.

CBT challenges your thoughts and helps you adapt newer, more realistic ones. This affects your thoughts and changes your beliefs, but only a little bit. And CBT’s effects often wear off after a couple years.

Do they help?

You bet.

I’m not saying you shouldn’t use them.

But if that’s all you try, you’re not addressing your core beliefs.

And as long as you avoid those, you only get temporary relief. Maybe change lasts a few hours, days, months, or even a couple years.

But eventually your social anxiety comes roaring back. And, you feel like you’re right back at square one all over again.

You hate talking to people. You avoid social situations at nearly all costs. When you do go, it’s terribly uncomfortable. You have a hard time holding down a job.

You find yourself feeling lonely and isolated.

How and why did you get here…again?

But you don’t ever need to be back in that old familiar, and painful, place – ever.

You can feel happy, excited, and alive – both in social situations and when you’re on your own.

You can experience your life…and enjoy it.

You’ll make the difference in the world you want.

You’ll feel normal in social situations. You’ll be able to fully be yourself. You’ll live up to your full potential.

You’ll have more friends. Maybe a little more money too.

You’ll enjoy your time in groups of others.

And when it’s time to leave, you don’t relentlessly hammer yourself with guilt and shame for looking like an idiot. Instead, you simply leave…feeling fine about yourself and the way things went. You might even feel overjoyed after having such a great time.

Personally, instead of tossing and turning, dreading the day before I wake up, I now feel optimistic about what could happen. Even if I have many stressful things on my plate.

This is not for everyone

Look, I’m going to be honest with you.

My coaching service isn’t for everyone. It’s not a “done-for-you” program.

You can’t just sit back, relax, and watch.

…Because healing from social anxiety doesn’t work that way.

No product or service eliminates your social anxiety without action on your part.

You might get temporary relief. But it only lasts until you find yourself sick and miserable and filled with fear of people and negative feelings about yourself…again.

If I said you didn’t have to do anything, that’d be a lie. I’d just be taking your money.

If you’re not ready to take an honest look at yourself and embark on massive action too, this coaching won’t work for you.

At the same time, this isn’t an impossibly difficult process.

I won’t shade the truth. Some parts are tough.

But they’re not impossible. Or as challenging as they first seem.

You won’t die. You won’t starve to death. You won’t end up homeless. You’ll live through it…and even thrive.

…And you’ll have me gently supporting and encouraging you the entire way. When you feel overwhelmed or get off track, I’ll calmly steer you back on.

If you can take action that makes you uncomfortable (with positive encouragement), you’ll succeed.

It’s just a matter of time.

You’ve looked for a way out of your social anxiety.

You just need the right foundation to make it happen. Permanently. And some help putting it into action.

Questions, Questions, Questions

You may have one of the following questions others often ask too:

  • What is your coaching service like?
  • How is it different?
  • Can I do it?
  • When will I see results?
  • Will it work for me?

I’m happy to answer your questions. But here’s what you really need to know:

No “one size fits all” answer exists.

Your situation is unique.

You may have a fulfilling career. Or a good idea of the direction you want to go. Someone else much older than you may not have a clear direction yet.

You may have a supportive family who knows you can do it. You may have a handful of friends who do the same. Or maybe you have neither and need to build a support system.

You may have strong beliefs and attitudes. Or, you may agree with what everyone else says.

It’s difficult to find your answers because there’s so many different answers. Perhaps even an infinite number.

So that’s why we work together to build your foundation and an action-based process that works specifically for you.

How I can help you 

Would you like to feel relaxed in social situations, even in front of large groups?

Would you like to be comfortable in just a small social gathering?

Would you like to enjoy your life for what it is?

Would you like to do anything else social anxiety stops you from doing?

Would you like to shine your own light into the world and express yourself without any fear?

Would you like to do what you truly love and live your life to the fullest?

Or maybe you want to show people your real self?

My coaching doesn’t just numb anxious symptoms temporarily. CBT, medication, mindfulness, exercise, exposure therapy, and dozens of others do that already.

In my coaching program, you address the root cause of your social anxiety: low self-esteem.

All of the anxious thoughts you have begin with low self-esteem.

Why you have low self-esteem doesn’t matter.

What matters is that you understand what low and healthy self-esteem look like, and that you have a plan for building your self-esteem.

Well, here’s the deal:

You see, many other online coaches and therapists charge up to $200 for 50 minutes. But I don’t go that high.

During your first session, you’ll learn:

  • The real reason why you’ve felt so anxious your whole life
  • The specific beliefs that’ve held you back for so long
  • My 100% honest (and gentle) opinion of what you can do to heal the core issues causing your social anxiety for lasting relief (Instead of medicating the symptoms that cover it…only to find it to return again later.)
  • New attitudes you can use to practice healthy self-love…and break through walls your social anxiety has put up for decades
  • What truly makes you worthwhile as a human being

By the time your session finishes, you’ll realize you’re much more than your social anxiety. While you may have begun highly anxious, you’ll have realistic hope you can get past it. You’ll feel confident you can build a life you love and live to the fullest…filled with joy, serenity, love, and positive relationships with others.

You’ll wake up excited…and you’ll feel relaxed and comfortable around others.

How much does it cost?

Not as much as it should.

Because listen:

Nothing hurts you more than staying the same.

If you don’t act, your life won’t change at all. Do you like your life as it is now?

You might overcome part of your social anxiety on your own. But it’ll take you years of frustration, mistakes, and unnecessary pain and suffering to make it through.

You could also identify other solutions (products, techniques, services etc…), but then again they might not work either. And it could take you months or years of trial-and-error to find what does work.

In any case, you’ll lose you money. And precious time. Time you could spend relaxing, being yourself, and living life to the fullest.

If you choose me, you’ll avoid at least some of those mistakes. I can’t save you from every last bit of discomfort. It would be dishonest to say that.

…But I can likely save you from one. Possibly several. And your life may end up on a completely different trajectory than before. That could easily be worth 10-50X what I’m charging you.

Cool?

Bearing that in mind, the price for your initial session is just $99. I normally charge $150 for an initial session. But since you’re a faithful subscriber to my list, I’ll give it to you for just $99.

This offer won’t last forever though. In fact, it’s good for just the next 7 days. After 12:00 AM Thursday night, I’m pushing the initial session price back up to $150. And I don’t know if I’ll lower it ever again.

After your first session, you’ll have two choices:

  1. Continue working on the most immediate problem you shared by rewriting your personal story
  2. Go through an intensive analysis of yourself, win long-term relief from your social anxiety, and get a step-by-step plan for creating a fulfilling life you love

For your initial session, my full money-back guarantee protects you.

My guarantee: you’ll be ecstatic, or you pay nothing

I can’t solve your social anxiety in just a single session. No one can. Anyone who claims they can isn’t being honest with you. They’re suckering you out of your money.

But I can share enlightening insight with you that you haven’t considered before. You’ll understand yourself, and your social anxiety, in a whole new way.

And you’ll learn what you can do to get a fulfilling life you love.

What if you’re not satisfied?

Just shoot me an email within 30 days of your initial session.

You’ll get a complete refund.

Why?

Because it’s my job to help you. If you don’t feel like you get an amazing value for what you pay, why should you have to pay at all?

Sound good?

Awesome. Here’s what you should do next:

What to do next

Just click the Paypal button below to register for your first session.

You’ll then be automatically redirected to a page that shows you how to schedule your session and gives you a “Discover Your Story” questionnaire to fill out.

In case you’re wondering, the payment process is completely secure. I never see your payment information. Paypal keeps your payment information encrypted and secure – and they’re one of the best in the world at both.

Also, you do NOT need to create a Paypal account to make your payment. You can use your debit or credit card, just like you would anywhere else on the web. Just look for the gray payment button at the bottom of the page after you click the button.

Simple enough?

Claim your initial “Discover Your Story” coaching session:


“Discover Your Story” Anxiety Coaching


Note: Subsequent follow-up sessions currently cost just $99 each.

Warning: social anxiety only gets worse when you fail to act 

You know it. I know it. Everyone with social anxiety knows it: when you don’t take action, your social anxiety only becomes more overwhelming.

You’re afraid and tense in social situations. You leave them hating yourself afterwards. And you continue to isolate from others and miss out on the life you want in the future.

But…no sense in doing something you’re not ready for, either.

So you get to choose.

To create the foundation necessary and get on the right path to building the life of your dreams, just click the Paypal button below to register for your first session.

You’ll then be automatically redirected to a page that gives you a “Discover Your Story” questionnaire to fill out.

In case you’re wondering, the payment process is completely secure. I never see your payment information. Paypal keeps it encrypted and secure – and they’re one of the best in the world at both.

Also, you do NOT need to create a Paypal account to make your payment. You can use your debit or credit card, just like you would anywhere else on the web.

Got it?

Claim your initial session using the button below:

“Discover Your Story” Anxiety Coaching


Note: Subsequent follow-up sessions currently cost just $99 each. 

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