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Hello socially anxious friend (or their loving family member),

Just by coming here, you’ve taken a huge step already. Good for you!

You know your social anxiety is out of control. And you want to learn how to stop it.

Good news: you can do it.

Even if you feel you’ve tried a thousand times before with little to no success. And I know this even though you’re sitting behind a computer screen or browsing on your smartphone and I’ll likely never meet you in person.

You’re in precisely the right place to make profound changes in your life.

I don’t make outlandish promises. So, I won’t tell you you’ll be a millionaire, the one everyone wants to date, or a superstar at your office.

That’s lying.

But I will tell you that you can live a happy and joyous life. You’ll have freedom from social anxiety.

You’ll live successfully. You will have friends. A husband or wife who makes you happy. An enjoyable career.

Basically, a pleasant life.

And after decades of social anxiety running your life, it’ll feel quite nice.

For now, this website is quite simple. And it always will be.

It’s for anyone struggling with any amount of social anxiety. It could be dominating your life, keeping you at home most of the day. Or maybe you hold a steady job, but just feel isolated from others.

Or maybe you’re a concerned family member. You want to see your loved one help themselves. And you want to know what you can do.

You’ll find the solution in one of the posts below:

What causes anxiety? 

Why do people suffer from anxiety? Many things cause it. Here’s a few:

Causes of Anxiety: Overprotective and Controlling Parents – Control is a basic human instinct. However, it doesn’t work. Learn how (usually well-intended) control feeds anxiety problems in this post.

Causes of Anxiety: Lack of Love – Family members often mean well. But their words and actions don’t communicate love to socially anxious people, when that’s what they need most.

Enough with the problem! Learn about the solution and get inspired – 

10 Signs Your Anxiety is Reducing – Anxiety is such a potent negative force that few social anxiety sufferers remember to mark their progress. That actually leads them right back into their anxiety because they don’t think they’re getting anywhere (even though they are).

This post focuses you on what’s going well so you continue to grow and move forward.

Taking Things Less Personally – Yes, what others say has more to do with them than you. Learn how you can view what others say more objectively so you grow past your anxiety.

Practical guides for successfully coping with anxiety-provoking situations

With anxiety, it’s important to understand how to deal with commonly challenging situations. These practical guides show you just how to do that:

How to Handle Anxiety and Family During the Holidays – This guide works well, even for those who don’t consider themselves anxiety sufferers. The holidays provoke anxiety in nearly everyone. Here’s what you can do to have happy and memorable holidays, even with difficult family members.
Explaining Social Anxiety to Employers – Some employers are kind enough to listen and work with social anxiety sufferers. This guide shows how you can deliver your message so it gets head.

Hypervigiliance – Socially anxious people feed their own anxiety and increase its power by being too aware of things that cause their anxiety. Learn simple strategies for reducing hypervigilance.

Catastrophic Thinking – Will things really end up that bad? Socially anxious people think so. But that’s not true. Learn  what to do about catastrophic thinking.

How to understand anxious people

Nobody knows exactly how another thinks or feels. Anxious people have a doubly difficult time communicating this because of their fear of how others will react.

Not an excuse. Just the reality. Learn how anxiety may work (everyone’s a little different) in your friend or family member:

How to Explain Social Anxiety Disorder to Friends and Family – Written for social anxiety suffers, this post shows them how to communicate their thoughts and feelings to others. As a friend or family member, your job is to listen in a non-judgmental way. Find out how social anxiety suffers may attempt to communicate what’s going on inside with you.

Top 10 Things to Say to People with Social Anxiety Disorder – You never know what’s going on in a socially anxious person’s mind. But, you can safely say these ten things to them and know you’re helping them reduce their anxiety.

Insights into others’ behavior for anxious people – so you don’t take things so personally

Anxiety sufferers don’t always understand what’s going on in others’ heads. They routinely take others’ comments and behaviors as personal attacks (when that’s not how they’re intended).

These posts show you how other people think and act. You’ll realize its about them – not you:

Why People Get Angry with Social Anxiety Sufferers – Socially anxious people often find themselves on the wrong side of others’ anger. Find out why, and what to do about it, in this post.

Positive Effects of Anxiety – Anxiety’s not all bad. It comes with some good things too. Find out what they are.

Understanding medication and herbal supplements 

Both of these can play a role in anxiety recovery. But they’re not magic pills that cure you.

These articles show you what you can realistically expect from various medications and herbal supplements:

Melatonin: Effective for Mild Insomnia, Benzodiazepine Withdrawal, and Jet Lag – Many anxious people also suffer from insomnia. Melatonin can work well for improving your sleep quality. My cousin, Joey Sweeney, a practicing pharmacist, wrote this post to help you understand how to view melatonin.

My Personal Experience on Lexapro – It’s a common medication for anxiety sufferers. Is it worth it? Only you can judge for yourself. Use my experience with Lexapro to make an informed decision.

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