The Only Dating Guide with a 100% Success Rate

Many sufferers of social anxiety disorder, if not most, are simply too frightened to walk directly up to a woman, start a conversation, and ask for a date. Those of us with social anxiety disorder have been living in isolation for such a long time that attempting to move out of the isolation can prove well, downright anxiety-provoking!

ASN has already published two dating guides specifically for socially anxious people: Dating and the Anxious Male which provides some tips for men, and Dating Anxiety which provides some more general and broad tips for having a successful night out.

This article, however, will tell you exactly what you need to do in order to find the right, and healthy, relationship for yourself. Is there some sort of special technique or method that you can use in order to pick up the woman of your dreams? If you have been reading any of my articles, you would realize that anything which states that a specific technique will dramatically change your life is a sales gimmick!

If you would like to think that a simple technique exists that can improve your success with women overnight, then perhaps the technique that is presented in this article will fit that theme for you. And, perhaps you will think that the method presented in this dating guide is a bunch of garbage, working only for a select few people. Whatever the case is, I know that this technique worked in my life and that it will work for you.

First of all, take note of what makes my method different from all others – it is the only method that exists that guarantees a 100% success rate! How can any method guarantee a 100% success rate and not rely on any special techniques or gimmicks presented by so many other dating guides? Am I secretly monitoring your life and paying women or men to move into your life and have a relationship with you so that I can claim this success rate?

Of course not, and now are you ready to hear how to have a 100% success rate? In one sentence, all you need to do is to focus on your recovery from anxiety and other personal struggles, and a healthy and wonderful relationship will be a natural byproduct! I have learned that this is simply the way that things work.

To me, success is finding that one special person who you can share everything with, and I can absolutely guarantee that if you focus on solving whatever personal struggles you have, that at some point along the way, you will find a healthy relationship of your own! All other techniques and sales gimmicks out there teach you how to deceive, seduce, or manipulate people into relationships that they really have no strong interest in. All other techniques and sales gimmicks teach people that they would be happy or have a better life if they had multiple dates every night, millions of dollars, or the sleek new sport scar. All other techniques and sales gimmicks are based on making money, not finding happiness.

The truth is that you can find happiness within yourself, and anyone can be happy and content when they are single. People who chase objects – multiple relationships, millions of dollars, or the new sports car are only happy for a brief period of time; eventually they are forced to find a new relationship, more money, or a different car to continue the happy feeling, which again only lasts for a brief time. The sales aspect of every dating guide teaches you that something is wrong with your life and that you have reason to be discontent with being single. Why do you think that they try to make you believe that somehow your life is missing something? To sell more of their product, of course! Sure, being single is difficult at times, however, change is the only constant, and as long as you continue to grow and change into a better and better person, at some point along the way you will find a healthy mate to share that experience with!

Why do I so strongly advocate for this approach? This approach has not only worked in my life, but in many of my friend’s lives as well. As we worked to get better and better from the problems that bothered us, we eventually found someone healthy to have a relationship with. In my case, I went on many dates with many different women over the years, and only really had one relationship that lasted several months. I was never really happy or satisfied with any of the women I found during that period. However, as I grew more as a person and became less and less anxious, I eventually found that everything around me started to fall into place; I found a healthy group of friends, a fulfilling career, excelled in college, and finally, I began dating a woman to whom I am now married. And, we are satisfied and happy in our lives; best of all, we do not have to keep looking for that next exciting person or date that will make us happy. We are happy simply because we have each other and are willing to learn and grow together.

Another advantage of my approach is that it is long term. The secret methods and techniques of the dating gurus only work for so long – just a few weeks or so in most cases, and ultimately, they too have to admit that you cannot control people and that if you do everything right, things still might not swing your way. But, in my approach, things swing your way 100% of the time, and when you find that relationship, you have happiness until death, provided you made a good choice and are committed to continuing to grow in your newly-found healthy relationship.

Akin to Apply Yourself and You’ll be Just Fine, this dating guide demonstrates that all you have to do is your best and everything around you will begin to grow and change. Some days, your struggles with social anxiety disorder or other personal struggles may be bothering you so much that the best you can do is to walk down the street and simply be physically around places you can find women. If that is the best that you can do on that particular day, then you are doing just fine! After all, you could be sitting at home and not even trying. The point is that somehow, in a way you never considered possible, a healthy relationship will come your way!

People who ask me, “What should I do to find a woman?” always receive the same response, “Focus on getting better from anxiety.” The same people also ask, “But I am focusing on getting better from anxiety and nothing has happened!” To this, I respond, “Keep focusing on getting better from your anxiety. Apparently it is not yet the right time for you to be in a relationship; perhaps you are not as far along as you need to be.” (See ASN’s Patience to learn how much patience is required when working through anxiety). Additionally, I would say, “Also, be sure to look at other areas of your life and see how you can improve those as well. I have had friends who are alcoholics, and once they worked on gaining sobriety, things around them improved dramatically.”

In sum, if you want long term happiness, focus on making your life the best that it can possibly be by working through your social anxiety disorder, and any other problems that might plague your life (It’s okay to have other problems - I have many other problems in my life besides social anxiety disorder.) If you do that, everything falls into place, and there is really nothing that you need to do to make things happen in your life; they just happen on their own. Also, be sure to focus on things that really make people happy (see ASN’s Essentials for Human Happiness), and not the quick-fix, short-cut solutions that only work for so long and then require you to buy a newer or better version. The dating guide outlined in this article is timeless – it works in any time period, from the inception of civilization to the end of civilization. This dating guide is also universal – it works in every culture and in every corner of the planet earth. Finally, it works 100% of the time – and you are getting the whole thing right here for free! What more could you ask for?

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